Like any other party, there is a proper way to behave when you attend swinger parties. You don’t want to offend the host and you certainly don’t want to put off any potential swinging partners by acting boorish, idiotic, or completely out of step with everyone else. There are a few simple guidelines to follow and as luck would have it, many are the same as would be expected of anyone attending any party.
As with any party, you should always be polite at a swinger party. Don’t assume that everyone there is in it for the same specific reasons you are and don’t assume that everyone wants to sleep with you. Make a point of thanking the host at some point during the party and be kind to everyone you encounter. A swinger party is meant to be a place of fun and openness and anyone coming in with a nasty attitude is going to inhibit that.
Drug use is generally forbidden at swinger parties . The whole point is to have sex and there are very few drugs on the planet (with the exception of ED pills like Viagra) that enhance your sexual performance. If you bring them to the party or are found to be high on anything you will almost certainly be asked to leave by the host. Most parties offer alcohol to help the participants loosen up but they frown upon people getting drunk. It inhibits your performance and drunk people are often incredibly sloppy. Where’s the fun in that? Plus, it suggests to the people there that you can’t commit to being a swinger unless you’re drunk and in a way that’s insulting.
It’s important to be prepared for the evening when you attend a swinger party. It’s foolish to assume that the host is going to provide everything you need from toiletries to condoms so if you’re planning on having sex at the party (and who wouldn’t be?) you should bring a little bag with everything you need. Toothpaste, cologne, condoms, a change of clothes or underpants if needed, and more. Anything you need after sex you should take because your host will almost certainly not want to supply all of that for a house full of people.
This should go without saying, but you need to make sure that you smell good, look good, and that you’re well-groomed. That doesn’t mean you have to be a super handsome guy or hot chick, it just means that you should bother to comb your hair and dress well. Present the best version of yourself at a swinger party and you’ll have the most luck. More than trying to impress someone, you’re trying to tell them that they’re worth getting dressed up for, no matter who they are. Also, make sure your breath smells great and that your private area is tended to.
Don’t ever get pushy with someone at a swingers party. It’s the fastest way to get yourself ejected or ensure that it quickly makes it around the party that you’re not someone worth spending any time with. Don’t be afraid of rejection. If someone isn’t interested they’ll politely say no and you can move along to someone else. These parties are big and there’s almost always going to be someone willing to spend a little time between the sheets with you. If someone turns you down wish them a happy evening and move on to someone else. Don’t interrogate them as to why they don’t want to be with you. Simply accept it as fact and move on.
On that same topic, if you’re not interested in someone you should simply say no thank you. You’ll be tempted to offer an explanation to ameliorate the feelings of rejection you assume they have, but that’s actually where the problems happen. You’ll just end up insulting someone. Anyone with experience at swinger parties knows that a no thank you is all they need before moving on to the next possible partner. The bottom line is that you should be polite and thoughtful. Each party is different and every person is different, but as long as you stay polite and kind chances are good you’ll have a great time swinging.